Why the thoughts of what others think matter so much...

So, recent life events have been weighing heavy on my mind, and it got me thinking...Why do the thoughts and reactions of those close to us, weigh so heavy on our minds as we go through life, making personal choices and decisions for ourselves? Especially when these choices we are making do not directly effect those we are speaking of?


At first I had myself convinced it was respect, but then I thought to myself, if they respect me, they will appreciate the choices I am making for myself and my life.  Second, I thought that my choices were negatively affecting them somehow, but then I came to the realization that it all boils down to the phrase, "You've changed."


Anyone who knows me, knows how I feel about that statement.  When someone accosts you with the phrase, "You've changed." They are simply stating that you have stopped living YOUR life the way THEY want you to live it, or the way they think you should live it.  Not the way they would do things.


To that I say, TOO BAD.  Last I checked this is MY life and I only get one (that I know, unless you know differently, then please tell me) so I am going to make the choices and decision that I see fit to get the most of this gift we were given.


No matter what your beliefs, Creation or Evolution, we as human beings were given a wonderful gift to exist together, and exist for a given amount of time (some more than others) but no matter the reason, be happy and move through this existence with those that make you happy, making decisions that mold your life into what you want it to be.  Not what those around you think it should be, they have enough to worry about steering, molding and shaping their own existence, they shouldn't worry about yours too.


Suggestions are always welcome, but please keep in mind, whether it is me, or someone else close to you in your life...you are responsible for the choices and decisions in your life, and no matter what others think or say, DO WHAT YOU DEEM RIGHT, NECESSARY and ESSENTIAL to making the most of your life.


I love all of my family and friends and welcome suggestions and concerns always, that is what makes our ability to communicate so special, just remember, if someone is not living their life the way you would, or think it should be...it is okay...it is their gift to do with as they please...focus on your own gift and make the most of it.  


It's okay to care, just don't overbear. 


Until then.....